Week 1 - Observe
Week 2 - Awareness
Week 3 - Transform
Week 4 - Power
Week 5 - Alive
Week 6 - Liberate
Lesson 1 (Introduction)
Day 1. Introduction
Welcome to the Sober Bliss Program. As a mum myself who was stuck in a cycle of drinking, regretting and feeling anxious all the time. Knowing that I had a problem with alcohol yet unable to do anything about it, I am so delighted to be able to bring you this program to give you all the tools and skills you need to break your own cycle of unhappy drinking and become the mum you know you can be, the mum your kids deserve. The aim of this virtual course is to help you gain the clarity and a renewed sense of pride in yourself, joy and excitement in living a life free from alcohol. It doesn’t matter if this is your first attempt or your hundredth attempt – you are not alone. Trust in the process and I will guide you through each day with lessons and journal prompts. It doesn’t matter if you are already a few days alcohol free or if you are still in the planning stages, each lesson will build on the next, giving you all the tools, tricks and information on how to live the life you want to live without alcohol holding you back.
By the end of this six week course you will feel empowered, liberated and finally be free from the fog of alcohol. You will be able to move forward with your life, free from rules,free from the need for willpower and be ready to design you new sober lifestyle.
Everyday I will send you an email to remind you of the days lesson and each lesson should take no more than 20 minutes as a Mum, I know you’re busy so the lessons and program will fit in with your lifestyle.
Week one is Observe. This week we will be looking at our own patterns, situations, goals and struggles so grab a cup of tea and your journal. Let’s get started!
Lesson One – Change
Welcome to day one, it’s great to have you here. Before we start, if you ever need any extra help or guidance you can contact me directly. You might be sitting at home working through this by yourself but you are never alone, so remember if you need to reach out – do so.
You are here for a reason and that reason is that you desperately want to change your relationship with alcohol. Perhaps you’ve been feeling this way for a while? I know I did. For about two years before I quit I would question my behaviours, every. single. Day. I knew that I needed to change, wanted to change but the thought of actually doing it was scary even though I felt unwell, lacked mental clarity and physical energy, I just couldn’t do it – until I did.
We stay in our comfort zones, no matter how uncomfortable they make us feel, simply due to fear of the unknown, fear of change. How will I relax without alcohol? How will I cope with my children, stress or negative emotions without my glass of wine? How can I enjoy a social event, a barbecue with no beer in my hand? How on earth will I relax or unwind at the end of the day without the comfort of the bottle next to me? Celebrate without champagne? Never!
All of these things are not just possible, but infinitely more enjoyable and easier without alcohol to numb our senses, shush our inner voice and squash our true feelings. You don’t need alcohol to do any of it and you certainly shouldn’t have to rely on alcohol to help you be a Mum despite what all the marketing tells us. Indeed, looking back, I often wonder how I managed to do anything at all given that I was always either drunk or hungover, or just wading through the thick fog of alcohol, nothing was actually real for me and the hardest part to come to terms with is the fact that although I was there, I wasn’t really there for my kids. I was distracted emotionally and I know they felt it. And it is not until you finally escape the fog and break the cycle that you suddenly experience a clarity and a freedom that you had forgotten existed.
Here’s the thing. You want to change, you need to change, but you’re scared of change. I get it, it’s totally normal and you are not alone in this. But, as Rocky Balboa said,
“If you want to change things in a big way, then you gotta make some big changes.”
What do you want to change and why do you want to change it? The beauty of this course is that it is true to you and you will spend a lot of time with your journal, thinking, planning and making small changes one day at a time. Sometimes you might have to get down and dirty which might make you feel uncomfortable, but this is far more productive, empowering and liberating than just floating down a river of alcohol away from the world, away from your family, away from yourself.
Before I give you today’s journal exercises I encourage you, if you haven’t already done so, is to get yourself an actual physical journal, make it a special one and give it the importance it deserves. Why?
The act of actually writing stuff down with a pen as opposed to typing on a keyboard has far more impact on our thought process and goes deep into our subconscious uncovering things we didn’t even know were there. Also, it is important to be very honest with yourself when you do your journaling. This course is not just about removing the alcohol, it’s also about getting to know yourself deeper and discovering why you drink, your beliefs about drinking and what is happening in your life. What changes do you truly want to see in your life? So, don’t hold back!
Today’s journal exercises:
Think about your current situation. Where are you now in terms of your drinking and the effect it is having on your life now. Think about your drinking patterns and behaviours and what changes you would like to see. How are you feeling right now and how do you want to feel? Is your body trying to tell you something, how are you physically? Why do you want these things to change? Why do you want to stop drinking? What do you want instead? How will your children benefit from an alcohol free Mum?
Take your time with this and don’t worry if you go off track a little, there is no right or wrong answer, it’s all good, it’s all you.
If you would like to ask me anything or share this journal entry with me then just send me an email.
I’ll see you in the next lesson!