Transform Your Drinking, Transform Your Life – You might have heard words associated with sobriety such as hard, boring, difficult, dull or scary. It’s true that these are some words which describe your experiences as you begin to transform your drinking. After all, when you remove alcohol, when you stop numbing and blurring the edges, then you begin to feel all those feelings.
Sometimes, it is at this point when we decide it’s too much, that we can’t go on and perhaps try to moderate or we just go back to old patterns and feel miserable. I have said before that quitting drinking is not just about giving up alcohol, that is just the start, and if you are there then well done, that is often the hardest step to take.
However, it is precisely this part, the difficult bit which is the most empowering. This is the bit where you begin to transform your drinking and transform your life.
I’d like to share with you a piece from Elizabeth Gilbert’s wonderful book, ‘Big Magic’ where she talks about what meditation teacher Pema Chödrön says about people who quit their meditation practice when things start to get interesting, but difficult:
“They quit as soon as things aren’t easy anymore, as soon as it gets painful or boring or agitating. They quit as soon as they see something in their minds that scares or hurts them. So they miss the good part, the wild part, the transformative part – the part when you push past the difficulty and enter into some raw new unexplored universe within yourself”
If you can push through the hard bit with grace, courage and a willingness to keep going, to keep exploring, that is where the magic happens. This is the transformative part, the wild part. I bet you never thought of sobriety as wild, did you?
Well, it is. Changing your relationship with alcohol is not just just going to bed sober, losing weight, saving a tonne of cash, or being hangover free (which are all fabulous by the way and for those reasons alone, I recommend you give it a go,) Changing your relationship with alcohol is truly wild and empowering and exploratory and fun and interesting. Yes, it’s hard at times, painful, difficult, scary, raw and real but that’s what life is all about isn’t it?
Life is about living your truth, being in alignment with your values, taking the rough with the smooth and getting through it all (which you will) The current times we are living in, thanks to Coronavirus have proved to us all that we are stronger, more adaptable and far more resilient than we give ourselves credit for.
If you worry that when you transform your drinking, it might be hard, (and I want you to use these words now, not quitting, not giving up but transforming.) If you worry that you might not be very good at it, if you worry that you might fail, or become boring, get bored, get scared, be afraid, discover new things about yourself, get hurt, and feel pain and raw emotion. Then you will and that’s okay because that’s how we are supposed to feel, what we’re supposed to experience and to embrace.
“There is no quick fix anymore that comes with a glass of wine. But I don’t want a quick fix, I want to feel all the feelings and face them head on”
The thing is though, we shouldn’t let those fears from preventing us from growing. Because, when you find the courage to keep going, to push through, to peel back another layer, then comes the wild part, the exciting part, the interesting part.
You get to experience pure joy that makes your heart ache, you will laugh so hard you wee yourself, go places you’ve never been, connect with your higher self, experience love, fun happiness and contentment like you’ve never experienced before.
You will feel peace, experience calm and find comfort in those moments that you always rushed through before. You get to delve into the new and unexplored version of you, you get to go back to who you really are, you get to feel strong and empowered and have courage. You will feel liberated, free, awake and alive. And that is the true beauty of sobriety. That is when you truly transform your drinking and transform your life.
I want to help you do that, I want to help you through the difficult part, the scary and the unknown part. I want to help you get to the wild part, the interesting part, the transformative part. Because that is the most exciting and thrilling experience you can gift yourself with.
If you want to be transformed, then join me for three wild, interesting, transformative months to transform your drinking and transform your life.